You're right, Cat. Folks have to go to their bio page and look at their friends list in the lower right hand corner of the page. I looked at each of the links and accepted all those who wanted to add me as a friend, which I did.
I added several myself, and I'm hoping those folks will go to their bio page and accept my request.
As far as searching for my friends' posts, it appears the only way to do that is to go to any of my friend's bio page and look at the threads listed at the bottom.
Pam, you'd better go to your "Requests to Review" link and accept the folks who want to list you as their friends! Those that I accepted are now listed under my friends, but there are only three there so far.